I got a divorce 8 years ago in New Hampshire and my ex-wife moved the children to Massachusetts 4 years ago. There is nothing in the divorce decree about having to pay for college. I can only afford in state tuition. My ex wife refuses to have me involved in the college planning stages and every time I talk to my kids privately, I receive an email disputing what I have discussed. All the schools on their lists are either private or out of state, all of which are very expensive. Can she take me back to court and can a Massachusetts judge decide to make me pay for these expensive schools?
This is a very difficult time when you want to encourage and help your children yet finances are, of course, an issue. It also seems as though you have 2 children going to college at the same time, which creates an even greater financial burden. A judge would look at the finances of the family – and since you clearly desire to help your children as much as you are able, a judge would take that into consideration. It would depend a lot on the ability of you and your ex-wife to pay for college educations, also while balancing the need for both of you to maintain your retirement accounts and ability for both of you to save for your futures. Parent loans, student loans and aid may all figure in to the plan.