I have been ordered to provide alimony to my wife, and I’ve been doing that for some months now. I have a new management job offer in Brazil where I’m originally from, and I want to really take it. Problem is when converting my pay back to US dollars, it reduces my pay significantly by 40%. Can I take up the job first and then apply for a modification? Please advise if that is the right way to go about this situation.
You may want to consider post-divorce mediation to deal with a modification to your original divorce agreement. You would be able to meet with your ex-wife together with a neutral trained mediator to deal with the issues that would arise with your new work position. Your ex-wife may be able to understand the opportunity that this job offer affords you: promotion to management and, a move back to your home country. You could frame this as a positive opportunity for you, and not a negative turn of events for her. You may be able to reach agreement with a reduction in alimony over a period of time. You may be offered some incentives to move, you may be able to live with family for a while, and the cost of living in Brazil is less than the US. You may be able to reach a compromise through a mediated communication with your ex-spouse. You would be able to save time, financial costs of an adversarial modification hearing and the emotional costs by working this issue out with your ex-spouse. Most probably she has made her future plans expecting this additional support – her expectations would need to be addressed. Please consider the benefits of mediation in your particular situation.
Massachusetts Divorce Modification Mediator and Attorney, Tracy Fischer provides post-divorce mediation services and helps divorced couples figure out how to address changing finances and divorce modifications. She works with families and individuals in the Massachusetts and in the Boston Metro West area communities including : Dedham, Dover, Needham, Newton, Sherborn, Watertown, and Wellesley.